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Mentoring: Brothersons pt 5

The finale.

Things aren't always what they seem, and they don't happen the way we want them to. I wanted to be older, wiser, financially more capable of being generous, I wanted to be more _______. I've been finding that my wants are actually in the way of what's really supposed to happen.

One of the things about mentoring that I've come to love is that even in a state of total emotional, mental, and spiritual emptiness is where God can move the most (if I let Him, hahaha). In a state of depletion and fatigue a few years ago, I journaled, "The absence of myself is the only thing I can give." The absence and lack of my own emotions, my own thought processes and dreams, my energy, and my "fire for the Lord" (cheesy christian saying) are where I chose to let God fill me with His emotions, His thoughts, His dreams, His energy.

I would like to note, I do not always choose that - sometimes I stare at my phone screen trying to get a hit of dopamine from funny videos. But the times I chose to allow the "absence of myself" to be the platform of His presence have been more renewing than anything else can offer.

In my lack, I've allowed the overflow to go into the lives of Arthur, Barlow, Cyrus, and Dakota. Instead of saying "Look at my lack, God (which He already sees lol)! When is it my time to be given something?" I acknowledge that the God of Space and Time knows my needs and that they will be answered. It might not be how I expect it to be, but I know it will. That's a level of surrender that took years to achieve (and it's hard to maintain, too).

Sometimes when I look at the guys I have this tremendous level of pride and love that washes over me. I see them taking great steps of faith, actively praying for people, and going out of their way to positively influence others. I see some of them making habits of prayer, forgiveness, and gratitude. Some of them have hearts to mentor/big brother younger guys themselves, influencing them closer to Yahweh. That is what true multiplication looks like.


I had to put writing this blog down for two weeks due to health issues and starting school. In those two weeks, one of the guys called me and told me he invited a friend to his church, and his friend got saved. WHAT!!!)

Coming up in Mid-May, I'll be taking a weekend trip to the mainland. I'll be meeting Barlow face-to-face for the first time. On top of that, I'll be spending the night in Arthur's first home that he's ever lived at on his own. The fatherly love and pride that I have in my heart grows more and more with each passing day leading up to this trip.

To end, let's circle back to the first thing I wrote in this series: There's a basic need all people have: connection. Allow your developed connection with Yahweh to be a much-needed platform for others to ascend on. It is sacrificial, it can be hard, it can feel lonely, and it can even hurt... but if Yeshua is the blueprint for how we're supposed to live our lives, think of His sacrifice and how that led to your freedom. Embody the person of Christ and bring. some. change. to someone's life.

2 Corinthians 1:3-7

Blessed [gratefully praised and adored] be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts and encourages us in every trouble so that we will be able to comfort and encourage those who are in any kind of trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as Christ’s sufferings are ours in abundance [as they overflow to His followers], so also our comfort [our reassurance, our encouragement, our consolation] is abundant through Christ [it is truly more than enough to endure what we must]. But if we are troubled and distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted and encouraged, it is for your comfort, which works [in you] when you patiently endure the same sufferings which we experience. And our hope for you [our confident expectation of good for you] is firmly grounded [assured and unshaken], since we know that just as you share as partners in our sufferings, so also you share as partners in our comfort.


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